You need a reason!

img_20190127_113656_2124384893135003621077.jpgThis right here is the biggest influence and reason why I decided 10 months ago to kick start my life again and become a healthier, fitter and stronger (mentally and physically) version of myself 👩💪

My family needs me to love, care and support them….but I also need to love, care and support myself 🤗

Something that never comes easy to a Mum as our whole world resolves around what our children need.

I wanted to be able to cope with the disturbed nights and not be an ogre in the morning 🕘🌝

Keep up with the demands of school runs, swimming lessons and play dates without flaking at the end of the day and having nothing left for my husband 🏊‍♀️

Feel energised to run around the park on a Sunday afternoon instead of just staying in as “it had been a long week” 🏃‍♀️

Have something to do for JUST ME that made a difference 💪

I could go on but I think you get my drift…..

Take a moment to reflect on what it is that makes YOU want to be the best you can be and really think about why and how you can implement some changes (even if only small to begin with) 👍

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Losing Weight vs Getting Healthy

So many ladies said to me last week “I am eating less and being active but I still haven’t lost any weight”….something I was guilty of myself not that long ago, so I totally understand where they are coming from and how they must feel.

Now, weighing ourselves on the scales does have a small roll to play in helping us to keep a rough guide of weight we have or haven’t lost, but it is literally only useful for that. We CANNOT judge our bodies by what the scales tell us alone.

We need to change our mindset on weight loss and getting fit and healthy. The two things are not the same and I will tell you why.

When you are focussing on purely losing weight using the scales as your only guide, you will constantly be on an emotional rollercoaster as the figures go down one day and up the next….or even hourly. This is not a healthy, sustainable way of living for anyone.

By trying to getting fit and healthy however, you are going to see far more benefits than just simply losing weight. You will feel more energised, sleep better, feel happier, feel more confident, lose centimetres…..the list is endless. But guess what…..your actual weight loss may be very slow and may be minimal.

Hence why last week, I told all of those ladies to buy a tape measure, take their measurements as well as photos and then do them again in 4 weeks…If they are then eating clean, healthy meals and being active, they should be feeling some if not all of the previously mentioned benefits……with weight loss being an added bonus. A much better way to do it I think.

Personally my weight loss (as per the scales) can fluctuate if I dont drink enough water, its time of the month or if I weigh on my scales upstairs or downstairs!! Yes, honestly!!! So I know I cannot rely solely on what they are telling me. I always take my measurements and to give you a good example how epic this can make you feel about yourself….I once lost 10 centimetres off my waist over 5 weeks (photo below) which was actually the most biggest and most visible result I have had to date….in those 5 weeks I lost 8lbs in case you were wondering, but lbs can come and go as I said before.

So rather than getting hooked on thinking “to look good, I need to lose weight” we need to be saying “I will focus on being healthy, not weighing less”.

Xx

Here comes 2019!

So as a New Year is about to begin, it is time to reflect on life from the previous 12 months and perhaps start to focus on how you will move forward throughout the next.

I say “move forward” as I don’t necessarily agree with the term “improve”. We should be focussing on what we have already achieved and how we continue on that path, whether it be a fitness goal, a new career, starting a family, moving house….the list is endless as we all have individual aims that are important to us.

Dont get me wrong…some of those end goals will include making some changes that enhance our own feelings about ourselves but by no means should that be the priority.

In 2018 I started on a journey that I never ever imagined would develop in to what it has become…..it has been the birth year of a brand new mindset and priorities for me and also for The Gym Mummy which has become my 3rd baby and I am overwhelmed by the support and following of some amazing, inspirational women. Yes my new fitness has become a personal highlight of this year, as well as improving my mental wellbeing, sleep, strength, confidence and rocking the outfits i never thought I would post 2 children….however nothing compares to reading and hearing how my journey has affected other mums lives and given them the courage to give it a go also. What they dont realise is that it is them that have helped me!!

So going in to 2019 my first aim is to regain focus of my fitness and strength as this has taken some what of a Christmas battering. I could have pushed myself to visit the gym over the holidays but enjoying family time and making memories took over and that’s fine as thanks to all the hard work running up to this, I know exactly what I need to do to get back on track and more importantly I want to….my body is not loving me at the moment!

Also on my 2019 wish list is to become more organised, build The Gym Mummy blog, no more rushing in the mornings, learn to cook some new amazing food and encourage the children to eat a better variety of “green food”……Wish me luck!

Anything else on top of this will be a surprise and an adventure and that’s just how it should be.

So now that just leaves me to say a massive thank you to all you amazing friends and followers and wish you all a very Happy New Year!!

Xx

My Wall…..

I have hit a slight wall these past few weeks and my food has been off track and missed a few gym sessions due to children’s illness or Christmas craziness🎄

I have really started to see the old ways creeping in….bloating, lack of energy and poor sleep. It has really shown just how amazing I did feel when on it 100% 💪

With Christmas coming up and all the amazing food we have on offer, lazy cosy evenings in and family time to be enjoyed…..it is so much harder to stay focused and motivated but is even MORE important that we do as if we can keep some sort of fitness up and not gorge on everything in sight, we will enjoy the treats more when we have them and give us the energy to cope with all the full on times over this time of year.

I reflect on things best in the gym and having missed a few lately, old shadows have crept in and anxiety levels have increased and my mind is more disorganised as trying to juggle so much.

This week starts a fresh count down for me till Christmas day and I am really going to try and balance my food again and work out hard and clear those grey areas away.

There is more exciting times ahead for The Gym Mummy in 2019 and I am sure for you all also….so lets end this year the way we want to go forward and be positive, strong, healthy, energetic and feel fabulous!!

Have a great week!! 💕

Friendships

When you become a mum (or pregnant even) you envisage all of the mother and baby groups you will join and subsequently meet other mums with children a similar age and believe that this is how your friendships are formed from now on…..am I right?

Well I had a very strong opinion on this and said to my husband when i fell pregnant with Izzy, that I refused to make friends with people just for the fact their child was born in the same month as mine. At times this seemed maybe snobby, dismissive and isolating however I have so far stuck to my outlook.

I truly believe when you become a parent, your friends are even more important and help you through some of the most sleep deprived, vomit ridden and crazy emotional times….therefore they need to be someone who gets you, will cry and laugh with you, not judge you for having an untidy house or complaining about your precious bundles of joy….someone who you share more with than just a certain aged child, someone you can have conversations with that are about other things that are important to you in life, someone who you can meet without children just because, someone who loves you for you not for being “Izzy and Jack’s mum”.

Having said all this….this is easier said than done as us mum’s have a tendency to be clicky, stay in our ‘packs’ at the school gates and feel safe with the people we know. After all it’s taken you several months to make these friends so why share them? I am urging you all to stop for a moment and look around as I can guarantee there is a mum standing nearby, looking in, that is desperate to be part of what you have, the companionship, the hello at the gates, the text about utter nonsense, the quick coffee after drop off.
This person could be just what you need at that time in life and bring you more than just another play date.

Look past the children and see the “mum” as another lady like yourself. If that person is someone on your wave length and who you can be yourself around….hang on tight as I can guarantee when the children grow up and move out, the house will feel empty so you are going to need those friends even more than ever!!!

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My recent project!

I have been really busy over the last few weeks working on a really exciting project. It was something very new to me but brought The Gym Mummy to life and taken it to new levels.

I was honoured to be invited to write an article on post pregnancy bodies for Emma’s Diary…..and it has now been released so I can share with all of you.

Enjoy the read and I welcome all your comments on the article and your own experiences

https://www.emmasdiary.co.uk/blog/my-post-pregnancy-body-laid-bare

My mummy “filtering” fail

Since I have been regularly exercising and watching what I eat, I have made a conscious effort to be careful not to make a big deal about it in front of my children, especially my very grown up, impressionable 7 year old daughter.

Yes, I have discussed with her about how mummy is looking after her body and why it is important we all eat healthy food and do exercise but in a positive and child friendly way. Also I have purposefully banned the words skinny, fat, losing weight and dieting from being used in the house. Young girls have a lifetime of body consciousness to cope with, without it starting in their own homes.

Izzy has been very aware of the changes to my body and will often say “mummy your jeans are too big now” or “you look different” and I have always encouraged her enthusiasm when she wants to join in a sweaty HIIT session in the lounge. I have answered her “why are you not eating crisps anymore” and “what do you do at gym” questions as honestly as I can as I want her to feel that this is a positive change mummy is going through and not something that is unusual or focussed on self-image.

Despite all of this mum “filtering”…….at the weekend the very innocent sentence “Look mum, when I breath in like this I am skinny and when I push out like this I am fat” left me totally stumped. A tsunami of failure and guilt came over me and I genuinely felt sad. Those dreaded words have made it into her vocabulary and even worse she is associating them with how her own body looks. Obviously, I wanted to sit and blub at the idea I had let her down  but instead I explained how those words and actions could make some people feel sad and that everybody looks different and it is more important how we look after ourselves and feel about ourselves.

I am sure every mum has their own perspective on how to explain body images and wellbeing to their children and I would be interested to hear those, however I feel as long as our children are surrounded by parents who are healthy, confident and happy then hopefully they will grow up with a positive outlook on their own health and body images.

xx