My Wall…..

I have hit a slight wall these past few weeks and my food has been off track and missed a few gym sessions due to children’s illness or Christmas craziness🎄

I have really started to see the old ways creeping in….bloating, lack of energy and poor sleep. It has really shown just how amazing I did feel when on it 100% 💪

With Christmas coming up and all the amazing food we have on offer, lazy cosy evenings in and family time to be enjoyed…..it is so much harder to stay focused and motivated but is even MORE important that we do as if we can keep some sort of fitness up and not gorge on everything in sight, we will enjoy the treats more when we have them and give us the energy to cope with all the full on times over this time of year.

I reflect on things best in the gym and having missed a few lately, old shadows have crept in and anxiety levels have increased and my mind is more disorganised as trying to juggle so much.

This week starts a fresh count down for me till Christmas day and I am really going to try and balance my food again and work out hard and clear those grey areas away.

There is more exciting times ahead for The Gym Mummy in 2019 and I am sure for you all also….so lets end this year the way we want to go forward and be positive, strong, healthy, energetic and feel fabulous!!

Have a great week!! 💕

Friendships

When you become a mum (or pregnant even) you envisage all of the mother and baby groups you will join and subsequently meet other mums with children a similar age and believe that this is how your friendships are formed from now on…..am I right?

Well I had a very strong opinion on this and said to my husband when i fell pregnant with Izzy, that I refused to make friends with people just for the fact their child was born in the same month as mine. At times this seemed maybe snobby, dismissive and isolating however I have so far stuck to my outlook.

I truly believe when you become a parent, your friends are even more important and help you through some of the most sleep deprived, vomit ridden and crazy emotional times….therefore they need to be someone who gets you, will cry and laugh with you, not judge you for having an untidy house or complaining about your precious bundles of joy….someone who you share more with than just a certain aged child, someone you can have conversations with that are about other things that are important to you in life, someone who you can meet without children just because, someone who loves you for you not for being “Izzy and Jack’s mum”.

Having said all this….this is easier said than done as us mum’s have a tendency to be clicky, stay in our ‘packs’ at the school gates and feel safe with the people we know. After all it’s taken you several months to make these friends so why share them? I am urging you all to stop for a moment and look around as I can guarantee there is a mum standing nearby, looking in, that is desperate to be part of what you have, the companionship, the hello at the gates, the text about utter nonsense, the quick coffee after drop off.
This person could be just what you need at that time in life and bring you more than just another play date.

Look past the children and see the “mum” as another lady like yourself. If that person is someone on your wave length and who you can be yourself around….hang on tight as I can guarantee when the children grow up and move out, the house will feel empty so you are going to need those friends even more than ever!!!

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My recent project!

I have been really busy over the last few weeks working on a really exciting project. It was something very new to me but brought The Gym Mummy to life and taken it to new levels.

I was honoured to be invited to write an article on post pregnancy bodies for Emma’s Diary…..and it has now been released so I can share with all of you.

Enjoy the read and I welcome all your comments on the article and your own experiences

https://www.emmasdiary.co.uk/blog/my-post-pregnancy-body-laid-bare

My mummy “filtering” fail

Since I have been regularly exercising and watching what I eat, I have made a conscious effort to be careful not to make a big deal about it in front of my children, especially my very grown up, impressionable 7 year old daughter.

Yes, I have discussed with her about how mummy is looking after her body and why it is important we all eat healthy food and do exercise but in a positive and child friendly way. Also I have purposefully banned the words skinny, fat, losing weight and dieting from being used in the house. Young girls have a lifetime of body consciousness to cope with, without it starting in their own homes.

Izzy has been very aware of the changes to my body and will often say “mummy your jeans are too big now” or “you look different” and I have always encouraged her enthusiasm when she wants to join in a sweaty HIIT session in the lounge. I have answered her “why are you not eating crisps anymore” and “what do you do at gym” questions as honestly as I can as I want her to feel that this is a positive change mummy is going through and not something that is unusual or focussed on self-image.

Despite all of this mum “filtering”…….at the weekend the very innocent sentence “Look mum, when I breath in like this I am skinny and when I push out like this I am fat” left me totally stumped. A tsunami of failure and guilt came over me and I genuinely felt sad. Those dreaded words have made it into her vocabulary and even worse she is associating them with how her own body looks. Obviously, I wanted to sit and blub at the idea I had let her down  but instead I explained how those words and actions could make some people feel sad and that everybody looks different and it is more important how we look after ourselves and feel about ourselves.

I am sure every mum has their own perspective on how to explain body images and wellbeing to their children and I would be interested to hear those, however I feel as long as our children are surrounded by parents who are healthy, confident and happy then hopefully they will grow up with a positive outlook on their own health and body images.

xx

 

Helpful Tips

Happy Weekend!!

I had planned to have a weekend off after all the excitement of the launch this week, however due to so many people asking me recently about what tips I have for staying on track with my food and fitness, I thought I would get a sneaky one in whilst the oldest child is at a sleepover and the youngest is shattered after a party and engrossed in Blaze and the Monster Machines…….the shiny black box has its uses.

I have found there are no hard and fast rules that suit everybody when trying to maintain clean eating as well as following a fitness regime, however along my journey I have picked up a few helpful lifestyle hacks that have massively made my life easier….here are my top 10!

  1. Stay Hydrated – I make sure I drink 3 to 4 litres of water every day. Not only is the undervalued H20 good for your body and skin, it is also helps prevent those hunger pangs from popping their nasty heads up and chances are you are not actually hungry but thirsty instead. To make you enjoy this is a little more I suggest going to buy a funky 1 litre drink bottle that you will want to take everywhere with you.
  2. Plan – It sounds obvious but until I started properly planning my meals I would easily stray and pick from the cupboard or cook a convenient dinner. Don’t make it complicated, I now just plan ours and the children’s dinners as generally the day is taken care of and in the evening your less likely to want to start thinking about it.
  3. Shop Online – If you can, food shopping online is a brilliant way of avoiding those tempting treats. It is a great way of saving money too if you have planned ahead as you just buy for what you are actually going to cook. Plus, always the added bonus of not having to entertain the little ones whilst pushing a trolley, however if you like to involve the children you can ask them to help plan the menu for the week.
  4. Organise Cupboards – May sound a bit odd but works a treat. I store the children’s treats and lunch box items into tubs so that they are not easily visible when open the doors. Out of sight, out of mind!
  5. Work Out Schedule – As mums, it isn’t easy to find time to fit in a quick work out. It is even less likely to happen if you don’t plan in advance when you are going to do it. I have 3 set days a week that I know are my work out days and hubby comes home early for 2 of them as he knows how important it is for me to have consistency.
  6. Looking Good – It doesn’t need to be expensive however if you feel comfortable and stylish in your work out gear, you will feel more confident in the gym. I felt really uneasy when I started the gym, not knowing how to use machines or adjust the weights but once I had my new kit on I felt I at least I looked the part and it was like putting on a magic suit……soon you will be owning it and wearing the loudest, brightest leggings you can buy!
  7. Gym Buddies – Not everyone will share your enthusiasm for this new lifestyle you have embarked on however if you have a friend who is keen to join you, pair up and be gym buddies. Having someone to be accountable to really helps keep you in check and stop you from making excuses about not attending that HIIT class as well as being that person you text when you’re about to delve into your children’s treat stash! However…..when you are in the gym, on a power walk or in the back line at Zumba……you are there to work hard and sweat harder, so support each other and push each other on whilst having fun and the occasional giggle.
  8. Plan your Session – Planning your work out session is essential to ensure you don’t get bored, complacent or injured. If you go to the gym and do the same circuit over and over, you will inevitably become uninterested and lose motivation. So for example, I will plan session 1 to be Legs and Abs, session 2 Arms, Shoulders and Back and session 3 core workout and cardio. It will also help prevent injury from over using certain areas.
  9. Log Your Work Out – Keeping a log of your sessions is an excellent way to enhance accuracy, productivity and motivation. By keeping a log you are able to progress each week and increase weights, times, reps etc.
  10. Have fun – Whatever food plan you decide or exercise route you choose, make sure it is something you enjoy. You will then be able to maintain the lifestyle without feeling like you are depriving yourself of anything. Have naughty treats if you feel you can jump back on it the next day, if you can’t avoid them until you can. Enjoy the journey you are going on as it won’t just be physical benefits that you notice, you will sleep better, feel healthier, have more energy and feel happier…..makes the chocolate deprivation and sweat worthwhile if you ask me.

So there you go….I hope these tips are helpful to you and that they spur you on for your own fitness regimes. If you have any of your own ideas that you think could help other mums, please comment below as I firmly believe us mums should stick together.

Have an excellent Sunday 😊

xxx

Let the journey begin……

Hi Everyone, So tonight is launch night and I am full of excitement, nervousness, bewilderment and glee! I never imagined The Gym Mummy would reach the levels it has and would ever require to be on the WWW……but here it is! I started The Gym Mummy to hopefully inspire other mums who wish to add fitness to their lifestyles, open up conversations about post pregnancy bodies as well as life as a parent. The support it has received from friends old and new, family and the media has been so incredible and I am so grateful. There are some REALLY exciting projects coming up and I cannot wait to share them with you. For now…..have an amazing evening and weekend 🙂 xx